Equality & Freedom

It’s about 3 friends discussing their future, freedom, and enjoyment in life. At 23, it’s a usual scenario that when young minds meet, these are the topics that come to mind.

What is our next plan? Are we enjoying our life? Will we be doing what we have planned for?

F1: Female working, M1: Male working, M2: Male studying

The conversation goes on like this:

F1: So what do you want to do in the future, guys?

M2: Go to Europe for further studies and enjoy life.

M1: Be in a job and go for trips with my team and with friends.

M1 & M2: What about you?

F1: Get married. I am really bored in life.

M1 & M2: What? You want to get married because you are bored of life and work?

F1: At least I will have someone on weekends to go out with.

M2: Hey, at least you have friends to go out with now. Once you are married, you will have only one person to go out with. Also, what about the freedom? You will not have it anymore.

F1: That is exactly the problem. I have no freedom like you guys. To go out, I have to take permission from my parents. To go to a party: parents’ permission. To go for a trip: parents’ permission. And obviously, it is not always YES. My life is really boring. I want to enjoy my life.

Now we understood she also had a point. If a guy wants to do something, he usually gets affirmative replies from his parents, but a girl generally needs to plead, promise, and what not to convince their parents. Even then, they don’t get the green signal. I heard from a lot of my friends: “I wish I was a guy”; I want to enjoy like you guys.

So you might ask: “Why are parents too caring about their daughters and curb their freedom?” Is it that this is a male-dominated society and a boy can live in any situation and a girl cannot? What might be the reason?

One cannot blame parents for this. They are being overprotective only because they see examples from society and make up their mind. So when does a girl really get freedom? When is she going to do something on her own and enjoy life? I remember a line from one of my grandma’s friends (she is 60 now): “During my teens, my parents controlled me. When I was 20-30, I had to live for my husband. When I was 30-60, I had to live for my children (without embarrassing them). Now (at 60), I have time for myself, and I am going for a world tour.”

So, girls, just check out when you really have time for yourself.